Burnout in High-Performing College Athletes Often Looks Like Discipline Burnout in collegiate athletes rarely looks like quitting or losing motivation. Instead, it often appears as increased discipline. From the outside, this heightened drive may look like mental toughness; however, internally, something begins to shift. Rather than obvious exhaustion, burnout often shows up as: At first, […]

Do I Have High-Functioning Anxety? If you’re successful on paper but constantly tense underneath, you may have wondered whether you have high-functioning anxiety. On the outside, you perform well. Internally, your mind rarely rests. High-functioning anxiety often hides behind competence. You meet deadlines. You show up prepared. You perform well. But internally, your mind rarely […]

If you’re a high achiever wondering about burnout vs anxiety, you’re not alone. Many people search “am I burnt out or just anxious?” when they feel off internally but still appear functional on the outside. Burnout and anxiety can look similar, but they are not the same — and responding to one as if it […]

If you’ve found yourself asking “why am I anxious when my life is good,” you’re not alone — and you’re not imagining things. You’re functioning. You’re successful. You’re responsible. And yet, your anxiety feels louder now than it did when life was objectively harder. If you searched something like: you’re not alone – and you’re […]

Many women trying to advocate for yourself at work without being labeled difficult don’t struggle with knowing what they want to say. They struggle with everything that comes before saying it. The mental rehearsal.The tone-checking.The question of how it will land. If you’ve ever delayed speaking up, softened a request, or talked yourself out of […]

If You Can’t Stop Overthinking, This Isn’t a Personal Failure If you’re searching for how to stop overthinking, chances are you’re not someone who lacks insight — you’re someone whose mind never seems to turn off. Overthinking is especially common in anxious perfectionists and high achievers who feel pressure to get things “right,” even when […]

Holiday stress in blended families can feel extra intense in San Diego – warm December sunshine, December Nights in Balboa Park, holiday shopping at UTC or Fashion Valley, and the Hotel del Coronado lights can create beautiful memories and real overstimulation. Guest Post by Amy Anderson, LCSWAmy specializes in couples therapy for high-achieving blended families […]

Perfectionism vs high standards can look similar on the outside, especially for high achievers, but they feel very different on the inside. High standards are values-driven and flexible. Perfectionism is fear-driven and rigid, often showing up as overthinking, guilt when resting, and never fully feeling done. Perfectionism vs High Standards: A Simple Comparison High standards […]

Perfectionism in athletes is one of the most common — and most misunderstood — patterns I see in high-achieving competitors. Many athletes don’t use the word perfectionism, yet they describe it every day: “If I’m not first, I failed.”“I can’t make mistakes.”“I should always be doing more.” On the surface, perfectionism looks like discipline and […]

If you’re a high-achieving, ambitious woman, you may find yourself thinking, “my partner isn’t as motivated as me,” and feeling frustrated, guilty, or even resentful. This is a common challenge for ambitious women navigating relationships where drive, ambition, and motivation aren’t perfectly aligned. In this post, we’ll explore why this frustration arises, how to manage […]